Category: Family

College Bound

· by Mr. Me · Family · 1 comment

Older son is filling out college applications. Yes, really. I somehow became old enough to have a son that is old enough to be getting ready for college in the fall.

It is strange that he is doing all of these things that I so vividly remember doing. It doesn't seem like it has been THAT long ago, but apparently has been, because since then, I have finished college, married, had him, and watched him grow up.

As strange as it is though, it's an exciting thing. This will begin a period of intense growth in his life, and it will be fun to see how he grows and changes over the next few years. It will be fun to see the adult that he becomes and the great things that he will do with his life.

Yes there are sudden moments of panic that I feel as I feel that life is passing by altogether too quickly. I'm not really ready for this phase of my life to end, yet I know that I really have no choice in the matter.

If, next time you see me, I look distracted or in a panic, you'll know why. My son is college bound, and before I know it, they'll be fitting me for bifocals and maybe even a cane or a walker.

Time Away

· by Mr. Me · Family · 1 comment

I'm tired, sore, and happy.

I just spent an incredibly fun weekend with the love of my life.  We ditched our sons and flew out to Oregon to spend a few days on the coast.

We walked on the beach.  A lot.  A whole lot.  We went kayaking on a tidal river.  We visited a couple of lighthouses.  We bought salt water taffy.  We walked on the beach some more.  I flew my power kite in a rather strong wind.

It was awesome.

The best part was being able to spend all day, every day, with my wonderful, amazing wife.  We've now been married for more than 20 years.  I can't wait to see what the next 20 years, 40 years, eternity has in store for us.

Birthday Ribs

· by Mr. Me · Family, Food · 1 comment

Younger Son's Birthday was yesterday.  For his Birthday, he wanted ribs.  I, of course, used this as another opportunity to use my new smoker.

I found a recipe called BRITU.  (Best Ribs In The Universe)  If the name of the recipe isn't the whole truth, it comes pretty close.

I sprinkled the ribs with spices and smoked them for four hours using hickory and cherry woods.  When they passed the "tear test," I pulled them off, cut them into individual rib sections, and served them the sauce specified in the recipe.

They were VERY excellent ribs.  The meat didn't fall off the bone, but it did pull off without too much effort when I bit into them.  The smallest ends of the slabs of ribs were a little overcooked and dry, but the rest of the slabs were nice and juicy.  There was a great smoke ring on them, and the hickory gave them a bacon-y flavor that was really good.  The spice sprinkle was salty, which went really well with the sweet sauce.  The sauce really was a condiment and not a necessity--the flavor of the ribs spoke for themselves.

Happy Birthday, Younger Son!

Another Year, and I'm Still Here!

· by Mr. Me · Scouting, Cycling, Family, Guitar, Work

So what did I do in 2010?

  • I tried playing racquetball again.  My elbow didn't like it much, so I realized that racquetball is probably out for the rest of my life--at least, right-handed racquetball
  • I slept in a burrito during another "Klondike Derby" with my younger son, then slept in a burrito yet again for my older son's "Denali Base Camp."
  • I performed in a benefit concert for the Syd Riggs Scholarship Foundation.
  • I earned my Wood Badge beads.
  • I left Symantec and started working for the LDS Church
  • My older son turned 16 and started driving, causing a spike in both blood pressure and insurance premium.
  • I spent a few days on the Green River, canoeing 68 miles.
  • I spent a week in San Diego with my family--a very fun family vacation.
  • I camped with my scouts at Camp Bartlett near Montpelier, Idaho
  • My younger son got a full set of braces
  • I was made a development lead at my new job and was given a new project to work on
  • I sold the last Saturn I will likely ever own and I purchased my third Subaru.
  • I took the scouts to a "Centennial Camporall" in commemoration of 100 years of Scouting in the United States.  Early morning temperatures were lower than the winter campout in January.
  • I shunned NaBloPoMo
  • I cooked the perfect Thanksgiving turkey.
  • I took up smoking--I smoked a couple of chickens.

What am I planning on for 2011?  A lot more of the same.  Scouting will continue to take up a lot of time.  I'm still enjoying it a lot.  However, tomorrow is younger son's Birthday, and he won't be in my troop any more.  I wonder if it will be the same without him.  I'm planning on doing a lot more cycling this year.  I need to get in shape or I'm going to end up on The Biggest Loser someday soon.  So I have several long rides planned, starting in February.  I'm also planning on playing my guitar more in 2011.  I miss making music when I get away from it.

I'm also hoping to learn how to smoke lots of things this year.  Before 2011 is over, I want to feel confident in smoking ribs, turkeys, brisket, and pork shoulder.

This June will be my 20th wedding anniversary.  20 years??  It's crazy.  I was married shortly after my parents' 25th anniversary.  There are a couple of family things that I need to focus on this year too.  I only have a couple more years left and my older son will be heading out on his own.  If I don't focus on the family things now, the opportunity will pass me by completely.

My life is good and I'm looking forward to the opportunities this year will bring.

Disclaimer – The views expressed here are the opinions of DeShawn Smith and do not necessarily reflect the views of Employer Solutions Group or The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

The Scoutmaster's Pay

· by Mr. Me · General, Family, Scouting · 1 comment

The position of Scoutmaster is a volunteer position.  In most troops, an adult is selected by a troop committee, or in the case of a troop that is being newly-formed, a steering committee.  They look to members of the community who can be responsible for training and guiding youth leaders in the operation of a scout troop and for managing, training, and supporting his assistant Scoutmasters in their role.  In troops that are chartered by congregations of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, the Scoutmaster and his assistant Scoutmasters are chosen by a Bishop who prayerfully considers who would serve well as a Scoutmaster.  After receiving spiritual approval, the Bishop (or one of his counselors) extends the “calling” of Scoutmaster to the person they have chosen.

A Scoutmaster serves voluntarily and receives no monetary remuneration for his service.  He spends  much of his volunteer time training and guiding the youth leaders in the troop, helping them to successfully conduct troop meetings and “outdoor experiences,” also known as “camp-outs.”  In my experience, he often ends up spending not only many hours of his time, but also some of his own money in fulfilling the responsibilities associated with being a Scoutmaster for his troop.

As Scoutmaster of Troop 770, I have watched young men—usually only thirteen years old—step into leadership positions and learn how to lead.  I have watched several boys take their first tentative steps into leadership.  They don’t always succeed, especially at first.  I have watched Senior Patrol Leaders that have blinked back tears of frustration as things didn’t go as well as they had envisioned.  Then it is the Scoutmaster’s job to offer encouragement, pointing out what DID go well, helping them figure out how to make it go better the next time.  I have watched timid and inexperienced leaders slowly grow to fill the shoes of the great leaders who came before them.  As they grow, their confidence grows and they begin to take pride in the accomplishments of their troop.  As they grow, the quiet confidence of leadership replaces the timid countenance that they had in the beginning.

A good Scoutmaster works in the background, giving the boys the opportunity to lead and learn leadership and gain confidence.  This is something I'm working on, slowly getting better and better at letting the boys lead the troop.

The best leader is one that the people are barely aware of.
The next best is one who is loved and praised by the people.
Next comes one who is feared.
Worst is one who is despised.
If the leader does not have enough faith in his people,
They will not have faith in him.
The best leader puts great value in words and says little
So that when his work is finished
The people all say, “We did it ourselves!”
--Lao Tzu from the Tao Te Ching

Despite the volunteer service, there is a “pay” from being a Scoutmaster that is, in my estimation, unequaled in other volunteer service.  My “pay” as Scoutmaster comes through the feelings I have as I watch inexperienced boys grow into young men who understand leadership because they have become leaders.

Last week at scout camp, I received a lot of this “pay” that makes my time and effort as Scoutmaster really pay off.

I watched a scout stress and fret as he committed to memory a closing flag ceremony in only a few short hours.  My pay was found in the pride that I felt as he stepped forward and brought a hush to the assembled camp, his commanding and confident voice calling hundreds of youth and adults to attention in respect of the flag of the United States of America.

I watched my own Senior Patrol Leader son struggle to find his role as a leader.  As the week wore on, I could sense the extra burden he felt in leading his troop.  I asked him to do things that he had never done before.  He stepped forward time and time again, calling his troop to order and asking them to perform, and they performed according to his instructions.  Each time, he stepped forward with a little more confidence than the last.  By the end of the week, he was confident enough to lead his patrol in a cheer that won his troop their second “cheer award” at opening flag ceremony.  There were times I wanted to step in and lift this burden from his shoulders, especially a couple of times when things weren’t going well.  But by holding back and watching him struggle, I saw him learn and grow.  At the end of the week, I talked with him about his experience and he beamed at me as he realized that he did it himself.

The feelings I had as I saw the confidence he gained and the satisfaction that he was obviously feeling—that is the Scoutmaster’s pay.

Vacation 2010 By the Numbers

· by Mr. Me · General, Family, Scouting, Work · 4 comments

Miles driven: just under 1700 round trip

Days of vacation: 8

Hours spent on the USS Midway: 5

Books read: 4 or 5

Times we ate at Harbor Fish & Chips in Oceanside: 2

High and low temperatures: about 70 degrees and 60 degrees respectively

Days at SeaWorld San Diego: 1

Kites flown on the beach: 2

Number of comments about my REALLY COOL kite: 2 dozen

Number of car problems: 1

Number of States driven: 4

Days we played on the beach: 8

Number of days that older son would have liked to stay on the beach: infinity

Number of "Burger Dogs" consumed: 6

Number of times we passed the San Diego LDS Temple: 4

Number of happy vacationers that WANT TO GO BACK: 4

It was a fantastic time.  We didn't over-schedule our time.  We just did what we felt like when we felt like doing it, which makes it the BEST kind of vacation.

The car trouble wasn't anything major because we didn't get in an accident.  The Air Bag light stayed on intermittently while we were in San Diego, and I thought it might have just been the humidity, but when we came back, I had it checked out.  They checked all the wiring and reset the codes in the computer, but a couple of days later, the light came back on, so we just spent $611.55 for a new driver's side airbag module--a part that we honestly hope NEVER to use.  The rest of the cost of the repair comes later when they charge us another hundred bucks to install the thing.

It was hard to go back to work this week, but not as hard at my new job as it would have been at my old job.  I didn't feel a sense of rising dread as I came nearer and nearer to home.

*happy sigh*

Now to get ready for Scout Camp...

Rollin' On the River

· by Mr. Me · Family, Scouting · 3 comments

Last week I spent a few days on the Green River with my son. (And with a few other people... It was the "high adventure" trip for the Varsity Scouts in my Ward.)

It was a REALLY fun trip.  We put in at the State Park in Green River City and we got out at Mineral Bottom.

The river was running high and fast.  There were times when the current approached 6 miles per hour.  Rowing really hard in still water, we might have been able to do 5 miles per hour, so if we needed to, we MIGHT be able to stay still in the water if we worked really hard at it.

We had to take everything we needed with us.  All of our food, all of our water, all of our belongings for the week were tied into our canoes.  We had a thorough check by "Ranger Fife" at the boat ramp at the state park.  He made sure we had all of the required items--extra paddles, life jackets in good repair, a method of packing out our waste (That's another blog entry altogether that you don't want to read, so I won't write it.), whistles, throwable floatation devices, and a lot more.

All-in-all, we had a fantastic time.  We camped wherever we could get out of the river.  That was sometimes difficult because most of the beaches that are available later in the year were under water due to an unusually high spring runoff.  Some fished, some played in the water where it was safer up side channels, we hiked to a point where we could see the river on both sides of us.  Nobody really got a sunburn.  There was very little bickering between the Varsity scouts.  We didn't tip over a single canoe.  We only had to fight mosquitoes on the last night of the trip.

We came out of the river 58 miles downstream, dirty and windblown, but very happy.  I hope I get the opportunity to do it again with my younger son in a couple of years.

Sixteen?

· by Mr. Me · Family, General · 2 comments

I don't think I'm ready for this. My older son turned 16 years old today. I took him to the Driver License Division this morning where he received his driver license. It's crazy.

It doesn't seem like it could possibly be 16 years ago that he came into our lives. At the time he was born, we were living in a tiny 20-foot by 24-foot apartment in south Orem. I was working at Jones Paint & Glass in Provo, cutting vinyl pieces used for window frames. I would come home every day covered in what looked quite a bit like snowflakes.

We had an appointment to go to Payson Community Hospital the evening before my son was born. I remember getting ready to go to the hospital. I was taking a shower and I remember thinking that my life was about to change forever. Never again would I not be a parent. I remember being excited to meet my first child.

A storm came through the valley and the low pressure threw a bunch of women into labor. My wife and I ended up waiting quite a while, because women in labor obviously come at a higher priority than women whose laber is supposed to be induced. It was pretty late at night when we were finally brought to a labor/delivery room and the process began.

Older son was finally born at 9:32 the next morning. I didn't have a clue then how much he would change my life. I probably still don't have any idea.

Today he can drive without having a parent in the car. I'm certain he's been plotting and planning his first date. I remember how old and grown-up I felt when I received my Driver License. Did I look as young as he does to me? Probably more so--I was only 15 at the time.

Happy Birthday, older son! I'm excited for the years ahead. I'm proud of you for who you are and who you are continuing to become.

Happy, Chilled, Relaxed Sigh

· by Mr. Me · Family · 3 comments

I've been away from computers for a little while.  Sure, I got online a couple of times to check tides or download camera software, but other than that... I was blissfully AWAY.

We spend a week in Lincoln City, Oregon.  From the time we arrived until the time we left, I don't think it got above about 72 degrees.  The sand was nice, the water was cold, the air was cool and windy, and the view from the condo we rented was breathtaking.  We played, read, slept in, followed no discernable schedule, and generally had a wonderful time.

I'll post more later, but I thought it would be good to explain my prolonged blog absence.

It's going to be over 100 degrees here tomorrow.  I believe that the beach is calling me again...

Frequent Patron Card?

· by Mr. Me · Family · 2 comments

I'm starting to wonder if there's a discount at the InstaCare.

"Come back and see us soon, because your fifth visit is FREE!"

Older son had to go to the InstaCare last night. I was at the Hale Centre Theatre in West Valley City with younger son. I was supposed to take my wife, but for some reason (call it mother's intuition or inspiration, or whatever you want to) she didn't want to go.

If we would have both been a half hour away when older son fell on his right hand and pulled a bunch of ligaments, sitting in a theater with my cellular phone off (yes, I'm polite that way, unlike too many other patrons), it might have been a bad thing.

Older son's hand was fortunately not broken... at least, not that they could see on the x-ray. In 7-10 days, if the pain isn't dramatically better, we'll be back for more x-rays. He won't be playing the violin for a week or two, that's for sure.